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Starting afresh with a Tuesday treat in the shape of books. New section to review some of the literary pieces that am hands on.

For the opening of this section I give you two readings. The full review coming up next Tuesday.

1. “Girls to the front. The true story of the Riot Grrrl Revolution” Sara Marcus. Published by Harper Perennial.

From the first pages, the brutal honesty Marcus delivers makes you feel instantly like  you have found a long-lost friend from your high school years. She is reviewing the story lived by many of us,one way or another, as well as the feminist phenomena as well as popular subculture hit that was the Riot Grrrl movement. Cannot wait to finish it and give a proper full review.

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2. “Riot Grrrl. Revolution Girl Style Now!” Foreword by Beth Ditto of The Gossip, text by Julia Downes, Red Chidgey, Cazz Blase and Suzy Corrigan. Published by Black Dog Publishing.

I admit it, I went on a riot grrrl frenzy, could be the symptoms of nostalgia about the youth that is now fading. But, nevertheless, and being consequent with oneself this is a must read for anyone interested not just in the movement or feminism, but also D.I.Y culture and the power and drive to make a statement creatively. In the shape of a scrapbook of detailed info, with visuals raging all kinds of zines from that time back in the  90s. This comes across as an illustrated encyclopedia that I was fortunate enough to receive on my mailbox just today.

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Next Tuesday full review and new treats for your brains, your eyes and your genitalia.

Loads of love and riot grrrling.

xxx

L

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So I started this webpage while I was in the US, with the help and collaboration of my dear friend Mr. Rat, now am doing it on my own, and of course am finding some troubles. But what would be of it all without the troubles. It started as a professional webpage to offer alternative indie tours in the city of Berlin. Finally to admit that I am not willing to have my second job also being tour guiding. Also this blog existed for the mere fact that I love to write.  I try in English, even though if I am not so dexterous in a language that is not my own, and am humbled but my own ignorance and lack of skill. But I always think on how Samuel Beckett turned to French as his language of preference for his writingsafter the war, not that am saying that am the second epitome of  modernist literature, a genius, or even Irish. The closest to being Beckettian is me being named Lucia.  Still on try-out condition.

So the webpage has a more feminist spirit, and it´s aimed to women in their thirties whose life is not a postcard.

Enjoy LUCHATOURS!

xxx

L

I have been reading  lots of material on the subject on how polygamy is more beneficial for women than for men, and vice versa, the difficulties of monogamy, natural laws, the implicit monogamy of marriage, commitment and the failure to stick to it. I am far from done, yet, and I will write the conclusions I have reached from studies, articles and personal experience.

Let´s bare in mind that monogamy was brought into light, as part of property rights, and private economics.  A contract accepted in the always concerned eyes of the state (according to its definition), for us to have certain obligations beyond emotional, spiritual…and then here we have Confucius words of wisdom:

Marriage is the union of two different surnames, in friendship and in love, in order to continue the posterity of the former sages, and to furnish those who shall preside at the sacrifices to heaven and earth, at those in the ancestral temple, and at those at the altars to the spirits of the land and grain.
Confucius, [3]

Amazingly, surprisingly…marriage, and exclusive monogamous relationship is in fact a tool invented in a male dominated system for it proves that marriage is more beneficial for men than for women. That said, and it being a contract of exclusiveness, and lifetime commitment to one, do not be foolish enough to overlook the nanoarticle where it says: but we still have the whorehouse. Bringing us back to the polygamy debate.

For starters I would read this NY Times article from 2005, am assuming written by two women, and this amazing article by Christie Church, where she writes the exact definition of what relationships ought to be. Pure logic:

These days, we’re both feminists. In feminism, we’ve found a language to describe the challenges inherent to being multifaceted, complex people in a society that reduces us to pink and blue, and we’ve found alternatives to buying into that society. Being heterosexual has afforded us many privileges, but it also has allowed us plenty of opportunities to challenge assumptions about what heterosexual marriage should be. This summer, I’ll be enrolling in full-time law school while Patrick takes over all of the household responsibilities. Eventually, Patrick would like to take some time off work to focus on writing. We’ve even discussed living apart for travel and internship opportunities.

Whatever we do, I’m confident that it won’t be motivated by the guilt that drove the early part of our relationship. While our marriage may not look like the ones we knew growing up, it works for us. We married a friend, but we got an ally.

I wouldn´t say that´s being feminist, I would say that is pure simple common sense. Back to the sex, which is the one thing that keeps the flaming argument hot and interesting. So the need of extramarital sex, the link between multiorgasm to multipartners, the length of a lifetime commitment if you think about it, it’s a known fact, there is that need, it exists, we cannot neglect it, it is a possibility as  Jay Michaelson states on his article inspired by the whole Tiger debacle.

On a personal note, I have never looked for sexual engagements outside my relations, never had an unoficial affair; BUT I did say, it´s a possibility and it´s there. I did ask for opinion (not permission) to have a sexual encounter outside the partnership with a former boyfriend. Obviously the answer was very heartbreaking, and one has to be above all things honest but yet, empathetic. So now, when I say that as a sexual being, there is more than a possibility of me having affairs outside the couple, I can see how women (the biggest defenders of monogamy) and men (the biggest defenders of polygamy) pass mentally judgements on me. Even those that ferociously defend open marriages. But, for men. Because let´s face it, this world is fucking sexist.Still.  And that just simply kills me. To admit the reality, to let in your mind a wide place for  that world of possibilities, is what keeps us mentally in track. If by marrying, starting a family, committing to a career, we neglect that world of possibilities (whether if it is a sexual affair or climbing the Everest) is not only dangerous but also counterproductive to man´s nature. And realistically, would you rather have a free individual as your life partner or an individual swimming in the whole protocol of roles, monogamous game?. Specially now in a transgender society… (I should do another poll)

So to the question, would you like to marry? the answer is YES. Now to the question would you marry? the answer is NO.

Find your terms, the ones  in which your life and your love life makes sense and feels right. That´s the key to it.

More to come.

Loads of love from every source. Love is all around you.

xxx

L

UPDATE: Grandparents know better.

Right, officially we are coming closer to Summer Solstice, have you not noticed it? here in upper Northern Europe. I mean c’mon, we are all gettin pretty much undressed and showing some skin. Mind the fact the love Germans have for FKK. After a day in the lake, having a swim in the cold winter waters…it is true, summer is here to stay. The title of this post refers to an old claim that my brother, and his classmates Pec and Raul came up with once the last day of school was near. But it surely has become a mantra, to any given day, when you pretty much decide to cut the scheisse and live it up. As an inspirational video, I came across through Cooler Magazine here you have “Leave a message” by Nike girls team riders.

Loads of love and play it cool

xxx

L

It is passion, a wild desire, it is a gypsy soul trapped in a Nordic body, it is the joy of life chosen, the rough path of the lonely warrior, the practical intelligence combined with the rawness of the good things on a plate, in a bed or on a wall whirlwind all in neon pink and neon green. It is all together needed, to become the mixed talents of a woman, emerging in not just a sexist world, but a sexist sexist branch of a sexist world, so called Art…so it does get sexual, and primitive, and funny and deep, complex…and basic. And she shows, for there is nothing to be ashamed of. Rage is a beautiful thing. Love is a beautiful thing. Thanks for your fantastic work, Marie, you deserve all things big, all things great…for you have the tools to face any challenge.

Loads of love and Karla Marie Bentzen

www.karlamariebentzen.com

xxx

L

Since WE, Spain won the World Championship, here go my fav. footie related films.

(I just love how nazis always have a Cambridge accent in films)

Loads of love, kicks, balls, footie, studs, World Cups, and celelbration.

xxx

L

New discovery. Funny how I used to cut and dye my hair for years…now I like going to Sonia my hairdresser in Madrid…need to find a Turkish girl here in Berlin-OH.

Anyhow..jewel. Click on image below.

Loads of love and good readings.

XXX

L.

P.S. Could anyone mail me the complete series of X-Factor, please…I really feel like reading it, and by no means I´ll do so in German. Na-ah.